When you try to move on and become a better version of yourself, he will come back to you crying, begging on his knees because he wants you when you’re not his.
Would you really let him treat you as a rag he can use when he needs you, and suddenly dump you when he’s done? Don’t.
If you ever find yourself in this situation and want to distance yourself from your ex, here are four ways to do so:
1. Cut the communication, even if it’s hard.
When you still keep the communication with your ex, chances are, he’s going to assume you’re still into him.
If you cut the communication off and keep the no-contact rule alive, he may think twice.
2. Don’t reply.
I know you can’t resist replying to his texts, especially if you miss him too.
I do, too.
But in order to stop the feeling and move on, focus on something that keeps you busy, like writing, going to parties, hanging out with your best buds or simply going to the gym.
3. Don’t show him you miss him.
Even if you do miss him, don’t show it.
If your ex is cocky, chances are, he’s going to use that fact against you to have you wrapped around his finger again.
Do not give him the opportunity to waste you like an old burger he’s accustomed to eating.
Be like the five-star cuisine he barely eats.
4. Even if he shows you he still cares, don’t let your guard down ever again.
Despite all the things he did to you, you will still love him.
Don’t ever let your guard down, though. If you do, you’ll go back to the first step in the moving on process again and again, until he gets used to it.
He’ll think you are just going to forgive him, even if he messes up one more time.
If these tips don’t work for you as of now, don’t be too hard on yourself.
Keep trying.
I know this unsolicited piece of advice is hard.
I mean, I also spent two years (almost) before I thought of doing it, and I’m still not sure if I can withstand it, due to the intensity of my feelings.
But I’ll get over it. We’ll get over it.
If you feel like you’re being imprisoned in his trance forever, just look at these tips as a guideline to ensure security in your fragile heart.
You don’t have to force it. You just have to let it all in.
You are on your own crossroad of which path to choose.
The choice is in your hands. So choose wisely.
